Avoid Comparisons – What makes you Happy No1

Posted on 27th February, 2014


Avoid Comparisons – what makes you Happy No1


Keeping up with the others is part of today's culture, comparing ourselves with others can be damaging to happiness and self-esteem. Instead of comparing ourselves to others, focusing on our own personal achievement leads to greater satisfaction.

People very rarely compare themselves with those worse off or compare their own attributes with those who are gifted with similar attributes.  I held myself back for far too long for much of my life looking at others through the filters of my own perceived inadequacies. I was not tall enough, i did not go to university, I was not eloquent, I could not play an instrument, I was not good at maths,  etc , etc, etc.  I perceived so many etc’s I could fill the page with them. And frankly there was no shortage of folk holding me back by reinforcing those perceptions in order to elevate their own self worth.


Being comfortable with my own uniqueness and recognises the gifts God blessed me with and not being envious of other peoples gifts is probable one of the most significant break troughs’  in developing my self esteem and happiness levels. There is only one you, another was never born and no other will ever exist; You are perfectly you. Comparisons bring envy, inadequacy, jealousy and lack of gratitude. Those that love you do so because it is YOU.

I came across this quote, I like it very much. 


“Comparison is an act of violence against the self”  (Iyanla Vanzant) 




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